There are many beautiful things in this world, too many to mention here, so I’ll just narrow it down to one for the purpose of this blog post: Beautiful women.
Now before all you feminists out there get all huffy with me, please take note of this disclaimer: I do hereby declare that my definition of a beautiful woman is completely subjective, and I fully understand that what I might consider as being beautiful, the next man (or woman) might think of as horribly ugly.
Okay, now that that’s out of the way, let me make it perfectly clear to my beautiful wife that what I am about to write is for entertainment purposes only. Writers need to write, so…here goes.
Is it an obsession or are we men just hard wired to notice a beautiful female? What makes it an obsession? In “Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá write: “No animal spends more of its allotted time on Earth fussing over sex than Homo sapiens.” I suppose “fussing over” something isn’t really an obsession, but it might be possible to fuss over something so vigorously that it becomes one. But I want to focus on what I call a controlled obsession, which is how I define my obsession with beautiful women. Before I get too far into the sex thing, y’all should know that we evolved (or were given the gift by God) to be attracted by beauty. And it goes without saying that if you’re attracted to a beautiful woman (my wife for instance), you’ll more than likely want to have sex with her (not my wife, your’s!). Whether or not she wants to have sex with you is another matter. Hopefully, if she thinks you’re beautiful, she will.
The Christian moral emphasizes and relates the beauty of attraction for the purpose of procreation. Period. The act of sex for pleasure only is considered taboo in most fundamentalists beliefs. My generation stipulates a bond between a man and a woman, cemented in love, acknowledged socially by marriage. Then and only then is it understood that mutual attraction (partly because of beauty) will lead to sex. Pleasurable? Yes. But taken in context for the end goal of producing offspring. Beautiful isn’t it?
Our moral and religious precepts make it kind of precarious when relating beauty with sex. Figuring out a workable solution in my case has led to a long marriage, 22 years and counting. And it’s quite beautiful.
However, noticing other beautiful females besides the one I’m married to will continue. It’s only natural.