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“Tell me baby, tell me why you get mad at me. You know I’m just a natural man and I can’t help the things I see.” (One Shot Johnny)

There are many beautiful things in this world, too many to mention here, so I’ll just narrow it down to one for the purpose of this blog post: Beautiful women.

Now before all you feminists out there get all huffy with me, please take note of this disclaimer: I do hereby declare that my definition of a beautiful woman is completely subjective, and I fully understand that what I might consider as being beautiful, the next man (or woman) might think of as horribly ugly.

Okay, now that that’s out of the way, let me make it perfectly clear to my beautiful wife that what I am about to write is for entertainment purposes only. Writers need to write, so…here goes.


Is it an obsession or are we men just hard wired to notice a beautiful female? What makes it an obsession? In “Sex At Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality” Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá write: “No animal spends more of its allotted time on Earth fussing over sex than Homo sapiens.” I suppose “fussing over” something isn’t really an obsession, but it might be possible to fuss over something so vigorously that it becomes one. But I want to focus on what I call a controlled obsession, which is how I define my obsession with beautiful women. Before I get too far into the sex thing, y’all should know that we evolved (or were given the gift by God) to be attracted by beauty. And it goes without saying that if you’re attracted to a beautiful woman (my wife for instance), you’ll more than likely want to have sex with her (not my wife, your’s!). Whether or not she wants to have sex with you is another matter. Hopefully, if she thinks you’re beautiful, she will.

The Christian moral emphasizes and relates the beauty of attraction for the purpose of procreation. Period. The act of sex for pleasure only is considered taboo in most fundamentalists beliefs. My generation stipulates a bond between a man and a woman, cemented in love, acknowledged socially by marriage. Then and only then is it understood that mutual attraction (partly because of beauty) will lead to sex. Pleasurable? Yes. But taken in context for the end goal of producing offspring. Beautiful isn’t it?

Our moral and religious precepts make it kind of precarious when relating beauty with sex. Figuring out a workable solution in my case has led to a long marriage, 22 years and counting. And it’s quite beautiful.

However, noticing other beautiful females besides the one I’m married to will continue. It’s only natural.

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Beautiful pair
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I suppose you can’t make everyone happy all of the time. That’s old news anyway, and I highly doubt that any of us really try to please everyone. But just who are we supposed to please? Mom and Dad? Brother and Sister? Aunt or Uncle? Employer? Employee? It’s actually quite difficult to know, although staunch Christians and other God-fearing folk would probably say that you’re supposed to please God and all the other pleasing will take care of itself. Okay then.

What about displeasing? Who does all that? We do. I have, recently. Want to hear more? Too bad, this is my blog and I can rant and rave all I want. You’re most welcome to leave, but I’d rather you didn’t, or if you do, at least be courteous and leave a short comment telling me….well, never mind, just leave.

I infuriated the editor of the paper I write for, and according to her I also slammed the paper in the process. I did all this without even naming the paper or its editor, but I’m so good at it that it was displeasure to the Nth degree, and evidently I dolled out enough of it to put my job as a columnist for the paper in jeopardy. What was the displeasure? I voiced my opinion on a subject publicly (via Facebook). But wait a minute….isn’t there something in the Constitution about freedom of speech? Or does that not apply when the opinion you voice is about something that is published in the same media that you are also published in? I suppose it produced a conflict of displeasing interest.

I hope to continue writing for the publication that I unknowingly slammed. I suppose only time will tell.

Until then, please please me and yourself by listening to the pleasing sounds of my band Mandolin Whiskey, just click here and click the play button.