White male privilege

I’m pretty sure I stirred up a hornet’s nest with my last blog post, you can read it here. The nest is actually located on my Facebook page, in all the comments under my post linking to that blog post. I suggest you go there and read through them. It shows me how divided we are on something that shouldn’t divide us: sexual violence. Perhaps I would see it differently if I were a woman.

I tried to gain a better understanding of why some women stay in abusive relationships when I chose Women’s Studies as my minor in college. My mother stayed married to our alcoholic father for over 40 years. There are many reasons why this is so, but I think the main reason in the case of my parents was because Mom believed the marriage vow “for better or worse” meant just that, and no matter how worse it got, she wouldn’t leave.

My friends, and even some family members, have asked: “Why did she (meaning Christine Blasey-Ford, not my mother) wait so long to say anything?” And: “She’s not credible because she said she hates to fly yet does so anyway when going on vacations and business trips.” I’m sure you’ve heard the same thing from folks you know. And you probably agree with me on the divisiveness of our nation.

There were many issues discussed by me and my feminist classmates in college; the social and cultural constructs of gender, sytems of privilege and oppression, gender norms, sexual orientation, and other social inequalities women face. One thing that stands out in my mind during that time can be seen in the way that Brett Kavanaugh presented himself during the senate hearings: a powerful man lusting for revenge against a woman, and/or men, who he believed had wronged him.

I think Brett Kavanagh is a man so full of himself and his accomplishments that nothing else matters. I saw an angry, hateful, disrespectful, white male. And I was shamed by what I saw. He does not belong on the Supreme Court, and in my opinion should have his credentials as a judge and lawyer revoked.

“I’ve never done anything like what the accuser describes.”

The accuser is Christine Blasey Ford, a clinical psychology professor at Palo Alto University in California. The one accused is Supreme Court Nominee Brett Kavanaugh. I’m sure everyone has heard at least a little something about this…this….I don’t know what to call it!

30 years ago a bunch of elitists teenage boys and girls were partying and two of the boys got drunk (one was Kavanaugh) and went a little too far with one of the girls (Ford). Behavior such as that is ugly, inappropriate and should never happen. But, unfortunately it does.

Kavanaugh and Ford appear to be heading towards another confrontation. It’s one of those “she said, he said” scenarios. But what makes this one a little more complicated is the political fall out for Kavanaugh and the long-lasting effects the “attack” has had on Ford.

I find myself asking two questions that I would really love to have answered:

  1. Why did Ford wait three decades to announce the accusations?

and:

2. Is Kavanaugh lying when he says nothing happened?

We’ve all done something stupid and regretful when we were teenagers. I know our elected officials are held to a higher standard, but when do we start holding them to that standard? When they are teens? That’s another question that needs answererd.

Peace.